Sooo I don't know about you guys, but I've been in need of some uplifting words of wisdom lately. I'm not sure if the planets are in retrograde or the universe is trying to teach me a lesson, but growing pains and I have become BFF's. I was feeling down and tired of looking to Instagram makeup tutorials and viral tweets to keep me occupied.
I asked my Instagram followers what some of their favorite books were and I got a great response. (Check out the following photo to see some of the answers). But one book in particular, The Four Agreements, was brought to my attention. A friend of mine told me how he heard the book was amazing and to let me know when I had finished it. And that's what I did.
My mom surprisingly had the book already, so she let me borrow it and I took a crack at what Don Miguel Ruiz had to say. As soon as I picked up the book, I was intrigued by the ancient modes of Toltec wisdom. For the next week, I couldn't put the book down.
These agreements are the rules that the Toltec people, who are a part of an ancient society made of scientists and artists, live by. They convened in the city of Teotihuacan, otherwise known as the place where "Man becomes God." Long, long ago, one of the Toltecs discovered the Four Agreements, and ultimately became enlightened, realizing the keys to unlock true happiness and bliss in life NO MATTER the situation.
So what did I learn you say? Ah, I will tell you. Essentially, if you follow these four agreements wholeheartedly, there will be no more suffering in your life, and you will live in a constant state of bliss. SIGN ME UP SIS.
So what does this mean? This means don't say anything you don't mean. Your word is bond and your ability to create. It is a direct reflection of your mind and your projected energies. Ruiz states that, "It is through the word that you manifest everything." By being impeccable with your word you will be able to transcend your current existence into a realm which is essentially heaven. Realize the power that your words truly have. It is up to you what you create with them.
This is my favorite agreement. Why? Because I think it is the most prevalent in my life. This agreement means literally what is says. Don't take anything personally. In our generation, it is easy to get caught up in other people's drama through social media or other virtual platforms. We search for validation through likes, retweets, and comments. But this doesn't mean anything on the grand scheme of things.
If someone says something to you that you don't like, or that upsets you, remember that what they say IS NOT a reflection of you, but them. Their words are a projection of their thoughts and past experiences. For example, if someone says "I never loved you" or "You're stupid" or "You're ugly," it is up to you to deflect these comments and realize that they are saying them because of an inner battle that they are fighting personally.
It's not your fault, and it's not your truth. So if you can take anything negative, and say to yourself "don't take this personally," then you are more than half way to your personal freedom.
What's this agreement about? It basically means that in order to avoid any falsified truths in your mind, you should never make assumptions. Assumptions only lead to miscommunication and distraction from what's actually happening. How many times have you gotten into an argument or a negative headspace because you've made an assumption about a situation?
It's natural for us to make assumptions about what people do or think about us, but that only leads to a negative headspace, which leads to negative words, which leads to negative actions. See the pattern?
Moral of the story is, avoid making assumptions in certain aspects of your life and watch how things change. Accept your truth.
This agreement is pretty self-explanatory. Always do your best. Have you ever beaten yourself up for failing an exam or for not accomplishing something that you really wanted to? Well, did you sincerely do the best that you possibly could? To avoid the negative perception of yourself, you should always do the best that you can in every aspect of your life.
Yes, this is seemingly hard to ask, but imagine how different things will be for you if you did! Now, obviously you will have low times and moments when you're struggling, so your "best" will be different in different situations. It ultimately means doing all you can at the moment.
This way, you can be confident and continue to love who you are as a person. It will also lead you to the personal heaven that we all have inside of us.
Yes, this may sound a bit corny, but hey it doesn't hurt to try! Please check out The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. You won't regret it!